Some people in this world are givers, some are takers. Some people get a kick from sharing information they have for the greater good, so others don’t have to search or fight for the information themselves. Some like to keep things to themselves (unless they get to show off). Some people help friends in times of need (without being asked to!) some people don’t. I’m happier being the first person and will not change for anyone.
All my special needs mums are more aware of this than anyone else I know and all fall into the first category. Sometimes the only way through a particular battle with our children & their doctors, for instance, is to communicate with each other and learn from those that have been there before. You then know not only what to ask, but what to ask for & how to ask for it. Most of this can be done socially of course over dinner & a glass of something so win win situation for us all …. for a change.
Having friends you eventually discover are the latter just reinforces both positions. They say you never regret the things you do, just the things you don’t. I’ll drink to that (bit early though!) and just say some of the things you do are to learn from so you don’t make the same mistake again. When you’re fighting a battle in one direction of your life you feel like everyone else is a good guy, shame on you. Some slippery little suckers will get right in there and take what they can, suck you dry if they could and when you don’t allow it to happen anymore just move on. Well depending on the type of person you are depends on how you bounce back I guess. Well unfortunately the situation I’m in has taught me lots over the years and bouncing back is a big part of my life so there’s no danger of anything that has happened to me so far bringing me down to their level. I am happy with the people around me right now all of whom are good positive people whatever their situation may be. Life is good don’t let anyone change who you are. And for the person who said that they wasn’t sure how long my happy demeanour could last because Cameron was so complex (understatement) …. UP YOURS!! Is the politest thing I can put on here.
And as they say – What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
Julie Noted 